Bianca Kosoy is a badass. No other way to say it. The NY Times has a brief but enlightening articleabout Ms. Kosoy, the creative director for Equinox, that high-class, high-style brand of luxury gyms. Now, usually I find stories about cooler-than-everybody ad execs to be obnoxiously overblown. But. after reading about Kosoy’s work and life, I’m convinced she might actually be cooler than everybody.What makes Kosoy so cool? Well, the number one thing that caught my eye was the fact that, while she may be in charge of the image for the country’s highest-profile luxury gym brand she doesn’t work out. In the article she states, “I never work out. I think fitness is a fraud. That’s why I try to make it look like fashion.”
Just because she’s a high-powered executive at Equinox, she’s proud of the fact that she’s not into the product. We should all be so bold. Though, it probably helps that she’s good at her job.
A few other awesome things about Kosoy:
Earlier this week, NPR had another bleak, the-world-is-sooooooo-fucked-up-for-young-people article about how millennials aren’t buying houses like previous generations (forwarded by Andrew Brown, yr an adult’s moral conscience). They explain this trend by rehashing all the other bad news millennials are faced with; there aren’t any jobs, credit is impossible, real estate is either prohibitively expensive or in regions with no economic prospects. Also, since millennials are sooooooo entitled and want the freedom to pick up and move whenever they feel like, they’re not even thinking about owning their own home. It’s depressing news, which is why I felt compelled to look on the bright side, to help you consider it a blessing that you’ll probably never be able to afford a home. Don’t say I never made you feel better. .
1.) Owning a house is, like a job in itself. Every Sunday is another trip to Loews, for new fixtures or appliances. If you live in apartment and you have a shitty kitchen, you just have a shitty kitchen. And you’re life is pretty much the same as it would be after you could have spent $50,0000 and 700 hours making your kitchen awesome. Think about. What do you want to do this weekend? Watch Prometheus, go get drunk in the park, watch Game 7 of the Eastern Conference Final and play ‘Cards Against Humanity’? Or do you want to get in a argument with your girlfriend/boyfriend in the drapery section of Home Depot?
Holy shit, is Hank really going there? I am, shocked reader, I really am. Some of you will never have to deal with the sprouting of hair in unwanted places. Some of you are only now starting to notice emerging new follicle pastures in the heretofore-bare patches of your adult bodies. And some of you started sprouting early; perhaps a unibrow or thick, lycanthropic zones of hair on your forearms. Maybe, if you’re a lady, there is the faintest shadow of upper lip-hair, an assumed affront to western beauty standards. Or, if you’re like, me, thin clusters of black, curly, itchy back hair sprang up on your back around the time of puberty, 16 or 17. I know. Gross!
stickK is a website, founded a by a couple Yale professors, that helps people reach their goals, usually weight-loss or exercise related. Their method to motivate the unmotivated-able is as old the putting money in the swear-jar; you don’t stick to your commitment, you pay. You can set it up so that if, say, you don’t go to the gym three days out of the week, your credit card gets charged and the money goes to a charity. Smart, right? What I like even better is the twist that instead of making the money go to a charity you believe in, say, Habitat for Humanity, you can make the money go to a charity which you would NEVER support, say Sarah Palin’s political action committee. That way, if you’re like me, you can’t easily rationalize not going to the gym by saying “well, at least the money is going to a good cause.” It’s not. The money is going to a terrible cause, all because of your laziness.
Nothing I’ve written about in yr an adult has freaked me out as much as a little link I posted to New York Times op-ed by Dr. Meg Jay, about how moving in with your significant other (without a marriage commitment) is a bad idea. Dr. Jay is a clinical psychologist and professor at the University of Virginia, who specializes in twentysomethings and recently published “THE DEFINING DECADE WHY YOUR TWENTIES MATTER—AND HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF THEM NOW.” I wanted to ask Dr. Jay about her research and practice, but our conversation basically turned into an impromptu session for my own problems. Which was great. The book is out now.
yr an adult: What we here at yr an adult like torefer to the twenties as “New Adulthood”, and this is clearly a focus of your research and professional practice – I’m curious how and why you started to research it?
Dr. Meg Jay: I had so many twentysomething clients and twentysomething students – I taught at UC Berkeley, and had a private practice for many years – and I just realized I was seeing the same things over and over, and saying the same things over and over. I realized there was a real need, that twentysomethings were hungry for real information about this developmental moment.
Joshua Heller is a writer, humorist and internet-meme-maker, based out of Southern Calfornia. Heller is currently working on his most IRL-based project yet, helping to coordinate “Summer Commune” , what is described as a “temporary, intentional community”, sort of a cross between adult life and a summer camp (Heller refrained from calling himself the “Leader” of the project, as it is, in his words, a leaderless movement.
Essentially, this summer, a bunch of “new adults” will descend upon Moscow, Idaho (pop 25,000) and live there for a while, hanging out together and having a fun, memorable summer. For the past six months, Heller has been working on Summer Commune, so I wanted to check in and see how it’s going.
Like many new adults, adrift in a sea of undesirable career options ,with a lack of firm real-world skills, you may have asked yourself, “Wait, should I go to grad school?” We know that we have, usually while toiling away at our dayjobs, and so we decided to ask people who are actually in grad school, what it’s actually like. First up is Allison Davis, an old friend, who left a successful career as tv/ad/doc producer to go back to school to change her career course.
Ok, so first of all, what are you studying and where?
I am an MFA Candidate in Dramatic Writing at Tisch School of the Arts, NYU. The translation is that I write for stage and screen.
What were you doing before you went back to school and what made you feel like you needed to further your education?
I freelancing as a writer and producer, and was working as a production manager for ITVS, a company that funds and co-produces documentaries for PBS. It was an amazing job – good hours, great benefits, noble work on award winning documentarians on subjects that I cared about and stood behind – but I was still writing anytime I could. Before and after work, lunch breaks, etc…. It got to the point that my “job” was getting in the way of my “work” and I knew I had to commit myself to what I clearly loved, or I would never be happy.
I really didn’t want to write a “thinkpiece” about TV’s latest internet meme, HBO’s new comedy series Girls,which has been over-exposed in the blogosphere while underexposed in real-life. However, the idea of the show, about four early-twentysomething women in Brooklyn, has clearly struck a nerve with people who write about things on the internet. And being one of those people, I reluctantly admit I’ve read a couple different blog posts, thinkpieces and reviews of the show. And I’ve actually seen the show myself, and liked it ok to continuing watching it, and it does deal with themes about adulthood, which clearly are of interest to me.
However, instead of offering my opinion on the cultural import of a show that has only had two episodes aired and was watched by only .33% of Americans, I just thought I’d list all the things I could say about Girls, IF I was a moron.
My girlfriend and I don’t fight very often, and when we do, it’s either about whether or not I’m using sarcasm appropriately (which I take EXTREMELY seriously) or about how often we should clean our apartment (which I rarely ever think about, unless forced). This last weekend, several days out from our last big argument, where we bickered about exactly how gross our bathroom was, exactly how often we should clean it and exactly how condescending I could be, I decided to clean our entire department. My girlfriend was conveniently going out of town on a ladies-only camping trip, so I decided to break out the 7th Generation™ Kitchen Cleaner and the Method Le Scrub™ Bathroom Cleaner, throw a doo-rag over my hair, “We Can Do It” style and break down some grime like a mid-00’s UK undergound music blog. Here’s what I thought about while cleaning:
Does this get adulthood?’ right is a blog series where a yr an adult writer watches or re-watches or reads a cultural work about adulthood and consider whether it’s depiction of adulthood is reflective of real life.
What’s the thing called? Party Down
When was the thing made? The show consisted of two ten-episode seasons produced between 2009 and 2010 and ran on the Starz premium cable network.
What’s the thing about? Party Down was about the relationships and aspirations of a crew of caterers working different events in the greater Los Angeles area. Each episode centered on one single event, and only followed the main characters, a mix of LA-types, when they were working the event. Adam Scott played a failed actor, Ken Marino was a burn-out-turned-crew manager, Martin Starr played an aspiring “hard sci-fi” screenwriter, Lizzy Caplan was a feisty comedienne and Ryan Hansen played an airhead, aspiring actor. In the first season, Jane Lynch rounded out the cast as a new-wavey-old-lady actress who never gave up the dream, and in the second, Lynch was replaced by Megan Mullally, who played a weird stage mom. It was a cast full of ringers, who each got chances to shine in the different, absurdist scenarios presented by the catering events.
by Emily Pinkerton
Not too many years ago, I was what you might call a pretentious music snob. I bought imported vinyl from new bands, and out-of-print pressings from those long disbanded (Modern Lovers b-sides, anyone?) Not only did I DJ at my college radio, I had the top listenership. And I was on the board of directors.
I took great pride in knowing more about music than any of my friends. I became an obsessive consumer and curator of taste. I could instantly pick out new bands worth listening to from the ones that were mediocre or just weren’t going to be around in a year. But one day, I realized something: I wasn’t having fun. Everything I knew told me I shouldn’t enjoy the music that made me feel the best, and I didn’t want to relate to the people who knew the random obscure crap that I couldn’t believe I was saying.
But here’s the thing.
Photo: Rule #14. Proofread your shit.
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by Henry Goldman and Will Payne
One of the things that personally interests me about the concept of new adulthood in North America, is how it corresponds with new adulthood in other countries. Without diving too far into cliché about how the world is flat and it’s all connected, it’s fair to say that there is more of shared culture, brought about by new media, than ever before. So I wanted to start having discussions with people living in other countries, who are perceptive about new adult culture here AND there. First up is my old chum, Will Payne, a writer and new media marketing bro living the dream out in Spain.
Henry: First off, we should find out who you are and what you’re doing in Spain? Sum it up, buddy.
Will: My wife and I got married last year, and decided it was time to get out of our job ruts in the Bay Area and try something completely different. She got a job teaching English in a public high school 10 hours a week that pays our basic bills, and we both do private English lessons and other projects to be able to afford to explore. Despite a few rollercoaster moments dealing with Spanish bureaucracy and cultural clashes, it’s been a lot of fun, we aren’t broke yet, so that’s good.
by Henry Goldman
This may not be news to you folks with cable, but to “cordcutters” like me (translation: people who watch tv on the internet), seeing this ad for the “new” 120 Minutes in a music periodical came as a half-shock. I was initially excited that anyone even remembered the only MTV show of my youth that showcased well-curated, independent and emerging bands. And super excited to see that in reviving the brand, Viacom also brought back the host of show we grew up with; un-photogenic music nerd Matt Pinfield, who, even in the 90s, seemed like he should have been the friendly clerk at Eugene’s House of Records, not the palest MTV personality this side of Tabitha Soren. However, seeing that theshow now airs on MTV2, at 6 am on Fridays, and that Pinfield came back because he clearly has nothing going (and is probably pushing 50), made me a bit sad about everything.
by Henry Goldman
I remember when I was in my early 20s, drinking with friends in their late 20s would tell me that about how when they turned 28 or so, hangovers got substantially worse. And me, being the typical cocky 25 year old, I would always think to myself, “Yeah, maybe for you. I actually drink, so hangovers aren’t really a thing.” And then, the next morning, when I had a slightly upset stomach or just the faintest of headaches, I’d be like, “I’ll be able to handle this forever. I mean, what people are complaining about? It’s like a mild cold. I’m fine.” And for whatever reason, I thought it was going to stay that way.